A few Sundays ago, our pastor gave a sermon on the “a time to” verses in Ecclesiastes 3.
“There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh...”
Our pastor mentioned that there are always going to be seasons in this life. Good seasons and difficult seasons happen to everyone. And these seasons don’t last. In the good seasons, we know sorrow will find us. It’s inevitable as we live in a sinful world. And as we live in sorrow, we know that there is hope in Christ that brings peace and comfort.
A few days later, I was reading in the Gary Chapman’s book, The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional, and he went through what he termed “the seasons of marriage”. Spring, summer, fall, and winter, although they don’t necessarily happen in that order.
Winter seasons are the tough ones. Everything is dark and cold. Discouraging. We wonder when and if spring will ever come. Even the “happy” things of winter can elude us (I’m looking at you, snow!).
Spring shakes off the coldness of winter and hopes for something better. Little buds pop up and promise a happier time.
Summer is beautiful. We dream of summer marriages as we plan our wedding. Joyful, warm, comfortable.
Fall is mysterious. Things slowly change and die, sometimes when we’re too busy with all our life’s activities to really notice. There’s a coolness in the air.
I thought a lot about how true these seasons are in our lives. They’re worth paying attention to. Seasons can sometimes catch us off guard, especially in marriage, if we’re not aware that these seasons will come to all of us.
Over the next few weeks, we’re going to talk a little bit more about each of these seasons. Until then, think a little bit about what season you think your marriage is in. Is it a good season for you, or are you waiting for the summer sunshine? Or wondering when that chilly air filtered in?
Marriage has its ups and downs, but it’s always worth fighting for.
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