How Losing Control Will Benefit Your Marriage {Building Marriage}

Tuesday Mocha // Building A Stronger Marriage // Huntsville Wedding Photographers

I’m not going to lie. I like things to go exactly according to the way I planned them. I’m a Type A personality who loves organization and helping things go according to plan. My plan, preferably.

I don’t like losing control.

And it affects my marriage.

I usually have certain expectations I’ve already formed for any given situation. (A byproduct of always planning ahead…) When Joel enters the picture with a different idea, the clash happens.

Maybe I start to explain all the reasons why my way is better. Even if both our opinions are perfectly legit, I like feeling in control of the situation. I might do a little compromising. But at the end of the day, my natural tendency is to find a way to have the final say.

Do you find yourself trying to control your spouse? Sometimes it’s hard to recognize (or admit) when we’re doing it.

It can take all different forms. Arguing, crying, coercing, silent treatment, threatening, ignoring, making excuses.

Take a second to really look at your motives. Are you controlling the situation in a way that will make things happen in a way that is truly beneficial to you and your spouse? Or are you trying to control the situation so it turns out according to your personal preference?

It takes a strong person to genuinely put someone else first in the relationship. Sometimes it’s easy. Sometimes it’s not.

Lose control.

Train your heart to acknowledge that your spouse has needs and desires as deep as your own. Your way isn’t always the best way, contrary to popular belief.

Be a team player in the little things – and you’ll have a stronger, better equipped team ready to face the big stuff.

Marriage can be tough sometimes, but it’s worth fighting for.

*hugs*

Amber

{P.S. If you found this Mocha helpful, we think you’ll also want to read about how our attitudes become our mindset.}