How Weakness Becomes Strength {Building Marriage}

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“The Best Marriage Advice EVER”

“Realize that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It’s usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.”

I saw this on a Brides.com article one time about “The Best Marriage Advice EVER”. On a list of 23 pieces of advice, this delectable quote came in at #7.

Just a few days ago, I was thinking this exact thing. Imagine that!

You, too?

I’ve seen it over and over in our own relationship. When one of us is struggling physically, emotionally, or spiritually, the other rises to the occasion. Where one is downcast, the other is a source of irrepressible encouragement (peek behind the scenes: Joel is usually hanging out on the encouragement side). When one is disappointed, the other is hopeful. When one is sick, the other serves.

This practice of continually building each other up is a joy in your marriage. I think it creates a habit of serving each other without expecting something in return. You serve to strengthen and build hope.

As you seek to love and respect each other, you also begin to recognize that you can’t do this alone. You depend on each other in a unique way within marriage.

Not every moment is a cupcake moment

We often see the verse “A cord of three strands is not easily broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:12) displayed at a wedding ceremony. Especially as you “weave” God and His word into your relationship, you also strengthen marriage when you build each other up when facing weakness.

But….it’s not always that easy! Sometimes when our spouse needs us to be strong and serving, it’s when they’re at their most unlovable. I know that when I’m struggling through something, I’m not always cupcakes and Hershey bars. But that’s when I need Joel to be the strongest.

I need him to not only be my strength, but also to be strong enough to tell me the truth and call it like it is. In love, of course. I can also be a little defensive in those weak moments…

Just me? Okay.

This week, love your spouse in their weakest moments. They might not be super lovable at the moment, but those are the times they need you the most.

*hugs*

Amber

{P.S. Want to know how losing control can benefit your marriage? We’ve got a Mocha on that!}