The Five Love Languages Series: Quality Time

Welcome back to our series on the Five Love Languages! This week we’re highlighting Quality Time. I feel like this love language is getting more and more difficult in our ever-busy culture. Quality time focuses on spending intentional time together that is focused on each other, not focused on an activity that involves participation by both of you.

What quality time does not mean is time sitting together on the couch with the TV on or phones in your hands. Doing chores together, running errands, or even traveling together doesn’t even really fall into the quality time category.

For quality time to be effective as a love language, you need to be giving undivided attention to each other. It doesn’t really matter what you’re talking about and you can be doing something other than sitting cross-legged on the floor (going for walks together in our neighborhood counts as quality time for me!).

You can be doing an activity together, but giving each other your undivided attention is the key here. If you’re together but more focused on the activity that you’re doing together than actually on each other, it’s not really the same.

The important non-verbal aspect that counts is that you are making each other a top priority during that time. You’re not scrolling through Facebook or driving down the road. You’re communicating that nothing else is more important at this moment than the other person.

And that, my friend, is powerful.

It’s powerful for anybody, but especially for those who have a Quality Time love language.

Quality time is actually one of our biggest love language struggles because we love what we do and stay super, super busy all the time. We have to be extremely intentional about scheduling time to put it all aside and spend quality time together. It’s not one of our first love languages, but we both have a point where our quality time “love tank” starts to feel empty and doing something about it becomes really important.

This week, find just 20 minutes to sit down with your spouse – no other distractions allowed – and just talk.

Here’s to building strong marriages!

*hugs*

Amber

{If you need to catch up, you can read find the Five Love Languages Intro, as well as Words of Affirmation here!}

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I love quality time with this guy!!! <3