In this Mocha series, we introduced the idea of seasons in your marriage. Just like there are seasons of the year and seasons in our lives, there are also seasons in marriage.
We’ve already talked about what winter and spring look like in marriage. Today is a super happy one – we’re up to summer time!
This Mocha series was inspired by some devotionals in Gary Chapman’s, The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional. I’ll be sharing some of his thoughts throughout this series, as well!
Oh, how I love summer. We live in Alabama where it’s super hot and humid, but I don’t mind. I love the long days and warm evenings, the anticipation of beach trips and ice cream.
Summer is a happy time. Slices of cold watermelon, outings with friends, hamburgers on the grill, ice cream at Handel’s, reading on the beach, and long evening strolls. What happy feelings does summer bring to you?
The season of summer in marriage is that beautiful, happy, content time. Gary describes the summer marriage like this: “The climate of a summer marriage is comfortable, supportive, and understanding. The couple resolves conflicts in a positive manner…utilizing their differences to help each other.”
This is the marriage that we dream about in spring. We anticipate it when we excitedly plan our wedding day. The I-can’t-live-without-you kind of love that’s so enticing.
Summer marriages know how to work through difficulties. They’re willing to forgive, put each other before themselves, and put in the work to keep the marriage healthy. Summer marriages pay attention. They know that issues could always be right around the corner (Gary talks about yellow jackets that are pushed under the surface in order to keep the peace), and they’re ready to go in with the right mindset.
Summer is a special time in marriage. It’s a wonderful experience. But is it an experience that you’ve lost hope of ever seeing again? Winter is tough, and spring is delicate.
Marriage is tough. There’s always going to be seasons of joy and seasons of difficulty and pain, even in the strongest of marriages. If you feel like summer is lost forever, please reach out and talk to a pastor or Christian counselor. We’re not meant to walk this road alone, and sometimes we need a little help. It’s okay!
And if you’re in this time of summer, enjoy the ride! It’s amazing. Guard against fall (we’ll learn how to do that in the next season!) and thank God for the beauty he’s blessed your marriage with.
*hugs*
Amber
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