Do You Think It Will Never Happen To You? {Building Marriage}

We all think it will never happen to us. No way, Jose. We’re different. Stronger. More in love. We can handle it all.

A few weeks ago, Joel and I found out that a married couple we knew had filed for divorce. It caught us so off guard because we never saw it coming.

It broke our hearts. For them, for their child, for the beauty and sacredness of marriage.

It’s real and we can’t turn a blind eye to it. And when it happens to people you love, you realize what kind of impact it really has. We believe that marriage is worth fighting for, and we’re writing this today to be a little fighting voice in world where divorce is becoming more and more “normal”.

We all have difficulties in our marriage. It’s definitely not roses and chocolate-covered-cream-filled-doughnuts all the time. But how do you know the difference between little resolvable issues and marriage-threatening warning signs?

I think every relationship has a different answer to that question. I also know that most marriage-threatening situations start small. They start with little issues that aren’t resolved, which lead to dangerous territory. Sometimes the big in-your-face problems come from a deeper root problem that started growing a long time ago.

How can you prevent those issues from erupting into something so much bigger?

As we spent some time on the Hawaiian beach giving our minds a break from our constant work mindset, we talked about our own marriage. We wondered what we could do to actively work toward making our marriage stronger. What we could do to fortify our marriage against all the things that try to threaten it.

Joel gave us 3 questions to answer that I wanted to share with you today. Since so many big problems start with small unresolved issues, it’s a worthwhile thing to dig through the little things while they’re still little.

What is something I do that you want me to keep doing?
What is something I do that you wish I wouldn’t do?
What is something I’m not doing that you wish I would do?

Simple, but impactful.

Are you willing to fight for your marriage?

Here’s to building stronger marriages!

*hugs*
Amber