The Night I Learned About Assumptions {Building Marriage}

Aways assume the best.

Easy enough, right?

I think back on a night not too long ago. I was in the middle of a stressful week and I was Exhausted. With a capital E. I was already in bed, waiting for Joel to finish up in the office so we could do our devotions and go to sleep. We always do our devotions at night, and we try to be very intentional to not to fall asleep before we read Scripture and pray together. We had already agreed that this night should be a “go to bed at 9:30” kind of night, and it was already past 10.

But there I was, getting more annoyed by the minute. I assumed that Joel was doing the typical late night Facebook scrolling. All I wanted was to go to sleep, and he knew that. As the seconds rolled by (I was convinced they were minutes, of course), I became irritated.

Side note: Super stressed + super sleepy = very cranky Amber. Poor Joel… 

So I decided to get up and do something about it. I headed over to the office to let Joel know exactly how I felt about his choice of Facebook scrolling that night. Just the kind of attitude I should have while waiting to do our family devotions, right?

And I found him putting the finishing touches on some of the work I had left unfinished.

You see, he knew how difficult that week had been for me and was looking for a way to take off some of the load.

That was a real-life lesson for me to learn.

I’m sharing this story with you because I want you to see how easily our assumptions can slip into our relationships. I didn’t even realize I was making an assumption. I thought I just “knew”.

There are going to be times when the other person is in the wrong. But be careful of how you react based on assumptions you make. Way too many times, our assumptions are not exactly correct.

This week, remember to start by assuming the best. It might save you both a little heartache.

*hugs*

Amber